The Benefits of Essential Self Living

By Lorraine Faehndrich

baby chicks

What, you may wonder, do baby chicks have to do with living from your essential self?  Well, I’ll tell you…..

This week my almost 10 year old daughter and I were offered the opportunity to raise 10 baby chicks until they are 8 weeks old.  My first thoughts were “No Way!  Too much work, huge mess, we don’t have space, our cats will eat them, I can’t bring messy smelly baby chicks into our house, blah, blah, blah…”  I was going to say no thank you, but every time I went to respond I felt a familiar tightness in my belly.   A feeling that I have learned means that the action I’m about to take is not on the path to my most joyful and authentic life.  Like a GPS programmed with the destination of my North Star, my essential self is telling me to “return to the highlighted route.”  So. I took a closer look at the thoughts that were going through my mind.

I noticed that my thoughts were all based on lack and fear (mostly things like, there’s not enough time, help or money).   I  recognized that they were stories I was telling myself that weren’t true and they were drowning out my desire to allow my daughter to have an opportunity to revel in her joy, as well as the part of me that wanted to play with adorable little chicks.

I asked myself the question…In 10 years which will I remember…keeping my house clean and avoiding the overwhelm, or a joyful and crazy opportunity to raise chickens in our bathroom?  Well, as you’ve probably concluded from the above photo I said yes to the chicks…..and to my essential self.

Deciding whether or not to raise baby chicks may not seem like a big life decision, but every action that we take that is in line with our essential self strengthens our muscle to do it again.  It’s actually little decisions like this that create the lives we want to create.  My small decision to pay attention to what felt freer and more joyful in my body has had big results in my life.  I actually feel less overwhelmed and happier.  I’m having a joyful and bonding adventure with my daughter…..right in our bathroom! She’s taken full responsibility for the chicks and is in absolute heaven.  I get a chance to see how grown up she is and what she’s capable of.  Yes, they are smelly and messy and our cats are going crazy, but I’m having more fun, feeling more joy, am more connected to my daughter, and more inspired in my work.   Sometimes things that seem small do make big differences in how we feel and experience our lives.  Especially when those small things are things that are on the path to our best life, our North Star, our JOY.  It reminds me of my favorite Abraham-Hicks quote…..”JOY first, and then anything else you have time for.” Listen to what your body is telling you.   You may be surprised just how easy it is to live your joy now.

Love, Laughter and Bliss,



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  1. Anna Sparks

    My sister had baby chicks in her pre-school class and we took care of them one weekend. I still remember how cool I thought it was!

    • Lorraine

      Hi Anna. Wow. Thanks for sharing that!

    • Jeanette

      Woah nelly, how about them apleps!

  2. Maria Frias

    Great blog… the message!

    • Lorraine

      Thanks Maria!

  3. rebecca @ altared spaces

    Little steps have huge import. Love this.

    Check out this blog on a similar topic today. Lindsey at A Design So Vast talks about how we become ourselves tiny steps at a time.

    • Lorraine

      I love that Rebecca. Thanks for your comment and for sharing the link!

  4. Daphne Cohn

    Beautiful post Lorraine. Such a great reminder to tune in and listen to our body and let our inner wisdom guide us (instead of our crazy mind stories based in fear and lack). Isn’t it amazing that we have this inner wisdom that doesn’t think at all about fear or lack? Love it!

    • Lorraine

      Thanks for your comment Daphne. Yes! I agree. It is amazing and makes life so much more pleasurable.


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