You Are Safe. You Are Loved.

By Lorraine Faehndrich

You are safe and you are loved.


I know it doesn’t feel like it sometimes.

Especially when you’re in pain or things are happening in your life that you can’t control.

Your mind can easily convince you that you are not safe, or that you’re alone, or unloved, or that you’ll always be in pain.

It’s not true.

What is true is this.

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”       ~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

And from our spirit’s perspective, ALL IS WELL. Always.

I just finished reading the book, Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon’s Journey into the Afterlife, by Eben Alexander, MD.

Eben Alexander, a neurosurgeon who had a near death experience, tells the story of what happened when he was in a coma for 7 days after contracting meningitis. During this time he received 3 core messages…

“You are loved. You are safe. You can’t do anything wrong.”

He experienced that the foundation of our universe, and others, is love.

I’ve read other NDE experiences, including one of my favorites, Dying To Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing, by Anita Moorjani, and they ALL include this similar realization that the foundation of everything is love, that we are love, and that all is well, always.

Even when from our human experience it doesn’t appear to be.

It’s our lizard brain, the part of our brain that is solely focused on survival, which prevents us from being connected to this awareness at all times.

But there are ways to stay connected to this truth, even while you’re in a human body. Making it a priority to do that, especially when things in your life seem stressful or scary, is critical for your health and wellbeing…and of course for relieving pain and anxiety.

So, I wanted to share with you some of what I’ve been doing for myself, and some of what’s been working for my clients during a time that has created a lot of fear for many of us, in the hopes that it might help you stay connected to the truth that you are safe and loved, even when you’re in pain, and even when what’s happening in your reality might be convincing you otherwise.

Find Inspiration

Read, watch, or listen to teachers who inspire and remind you of the truth of who you are. And do this OFTEN when things start getting stressful.

One of my favorite ways to stay connected to the knowing that all is well, is with books on tape and other mp3 recordings that I can listen to while I’m cooking, cleaning, driving, walking, etc. The two NDE audio books I included above, are fantastic. I find it very comforting to hear these stories told by the people who experienced them. They help me feel safe, and re-connect to love and possibility when my lizard is running away with frightening predictions.

Another spiritual teacher I listen to regularly for perspective and inspiration is Abraham-Hicks. I love their book, Ask and It is Given, as well as the many videos they have available on you-tube. Lately I’ve also been enjoying, The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World, by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu.

Connect to Your Body, and to the Earth

Your mind may run away with negative predictions and worries, but your body is always grounded in the present moment. Dropping into your body and taking a few low belly breaths, moving, getting some fresh air and sunshine on your face, putting your bare feet on the earth…these are all amazing ways to ground, soothe and nourish yourself, and reconnect to the love and safety that are the truth of who you are. Always.

Repeat Soothing Affirmations

Here are my favorite’s that I’ve relied on over the years…

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete.” ~Louise Hay

“Everything is always working out in the best possible way.” ~ Abraham-Hicks

“You can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done.” ~Abraham-Hicks

“All of life supports and loves me.”

“I am deeply loved, warmly welcomed, and completely safe.”

“All is well.”

Lead your mind

This one’s important. Your lizard brain is constantly scanning your environment for potential danger, and right now, she may be finding a lot of it! If you do nothing to lead your mind, you’re going to be stuck in a default of fearful thinking and anxiety that is bad for your body and prevents relief.

For more on how to Lead Your Mind see my blog posts, Train Your Brain to Relieve Pelvic Pain and How to Think More Positively When You’re In Pain.


The truth is that you ARE LOVE. From your soul’s perspective you are completely safe always.

Sometimes when we’re forced into situations that disconnect us from our sense of safety it can be an opportunity to discover that we have the power to get back there, all on our own, without anything else changing. It can motivate us to find where that safety comes from – inside of us.

I encourage you to use anything that might be scaring you right now as an opportunity to practice and find your way home to yourself.

Just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz.

You’ve had the power all along.

What do you do to help you stay grounded in love, safety, and possibility?  I’d love to hear your ideas in the comments below!



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  1. R.K

    Very nicely written! saw this at the right time 🙂


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