From what I’ve seen over the past 10 years of helping women relieve vulvodynia, painful sex, and other pelvic pain, there isn’t anything more important to your health, your confidence, your relationships, and your ability to enjoy your life than reclaiming a healthy positive relationship with your sexuality. Breathwork can help.
But, I’d say it’s almost impossible to relieve pelvic pain if you’ve picked up messages of fear or shame around your sexuality.
Likewise, it’s very difficult to enjoy sex and intimacy and experience your full pleasure potential if you have been conditioned to believe that your vagina is gross, sex is dirty, or that your own sexual energy is dangerous or shameful in any way.
And from what I’ve seen, most women…until we do conscious work to change it…have some version of this negative conditioning around our own sexuality.
These unconscious attitudes contribute to pelvic floor dysfunction, chronic pain, chronic infections, discomfort during and after sex and orgasm, and decreased desire.
Not to mention low energy, anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, and lack of joy and enthusiasm for your life!
If you didn’t experience this before pelvic or sexual pain, it’s likely you’re experiencing it now.
Shifting your habitual response to your sexual energy and consciously cultivating love and appreciation for your vulva, your vagina, and your sexuality using breathwork supports pelvic health.
You deserve to love every inch of your body and feel completely relaxed and at home inside your own skin. And it’s important to your health, wellbeing, and overall joy, confidence and success that you do!
So today I want to share a simple breathwork exercise you can use to start bringing pleasure back into your body and expanding your experience of orgasm…even if you’re struggling with vulvodynia, painful sex, or pelvic pain.
Conscious breathing is one of the fastest ways to drop out of your mind and into your body. It connects you with the felt sense in your body, and can be focused anywhere, increasing movement, flow, energy, sensation…and pleasure.
Start by tuning into your body.
Ask yourself, “What quality of breath will support me right now?
You can use the pace and depth of your breath to soothe and nourish, cleanse and purify, or energize and enliven. Choose one of these as an intention, or some other quality you feel you need right now.
Next, holding that intention, begin a slow, gentle, continuous breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Imagine breathing into your pelvis.
With each inhale allow your breath to fill each cell in your pelvis…your vulva, vagina, uterus, ovaries, muscles, bones, fascia and nerves…with love, safety, nourishment and pleasure.
Feel your pelvis gently expand with each inhale and relax with each exhale.
Notice what happens.
Adjust the pace and depth of your breath according to what feels good to your body. Feel free to experiment with your breath, sound, and movement to get to know your body better.
When we’re in pain, or have recovered from pain, it’s easy to lose touch with the fact that our body can also be a source of pleasure. We get very focused on trying to fix pain, and the neural pathways in our brain dedicated to pleasure literally begin to atrophy.
Pleasure is a muscle that we need to build with focus, practice and attention.
Breathwork can be a wonderful support in healing and strengthening your pleasure muscle, it will help you expand your awareness of pleasure in your body, and support and nourish your body as you heal.
If you’d like more support rediscovering pleasure and orgasm in your body, please check out the Healing Female Pain program, or my Sex and Pleaure Coaching Programs…or contact me with your questions anytime.