The Disowning of the Vagina

By Lorraine Faehndrich

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If you follow me on Facebook, you may have seen an amazing article I shared recently about postnatal care in France called, “Why French women swear by cooch coaches“.

In it the author states, “America doesn’t have a standard postnatal vaginal reeducation program because, in this country, not only does the system treat women’s health as an afterthought, but our culture has straight up vilified the vagina. Women in this country are taught that our vaginas look bad and smell bad, that periods are gross, and that, if we want our private parts to bounce back post-childbirth, we’ll need expensive vaginal rejuvenation surgery—because now it’s even grosser than it was before! But given that last year was the so-called “year of the period,” in which menstruation was celebrated like never before, perhaps this year we can take a cue from the French and finally treat postpartum vaginas as the national treasures they are. In France, postpartum vaginal care is considered a medical necessity, not a vanity project.”

We have straight up vilified the vagina (and vulva).  And honestly, what is up with that?  This is an important part of our body we’re talking about.

The fact that France offers comprehensive postnatal care for ALL women is incredible, and in my opinion, we absolutely should too.

But here’s the thing.

The really important take away from this article for me was that France has an overall culture of CARE, respect and appreciation for the VAGINA…..reflective of a culture of care, respect and appreciation for women’s sexuality – and women in general.  And we don’t.

And speaking of France’s culture of care and respect for women’s sexuality, I just read this piece of amazingness yesterday…. “How a 3D clitoris will help teach French schoolchildren about sex.”

Beginning next month France will be using a 3D model of the full clitoris in sex education classes for primary and secondary level! They are going to give school children accurate information about female sexual anatomy – something that in my experience most women and men in the US still don’t know.   In fact it is not taught in our medical texts. (It was in the 1800s by the way, but it’s been removed.)

Yay France! Thank you for the amazing example you set.  May we all follow your lead soon. (Though I’m not holding my breath!)

Here’s my favorite quote from this article:

“Understanding that they have an erectile system just like men, I think women will start to experiment more. They will understand that pleasure is not some magic that only a partner knows how to give.”

What a concept!

Contrast this with the US where our medical system does not care for, respect or appreciate the vagina – at any point in a woman’s life really, where girls and women are kept in the dark about their capacity for pleasure, and where shame is instilled every step of the way around our bodies and sexuality – through our education, medical system, religion, family, and media.

If you’re living in the US (or most places in the world besides France!) you have more than likely been cut off from your vagina whether you know it or not. It’s so common it seems normal.

It is not normal.

It’s time for a change.

Since it’s not likely that our schools or health care system are going to change anytime soon. It’s going to have to be an inside job.

It’s pretty hard to relieve pelvic pain or discomfort if you don’t like your vulva, or you’re carrying around unconscious messages that sex is dirty, or that your own sexual energy is dangerous or shameful. It’s completely understandable, but these old and often unconscious attitudes contribute to pelvic floor tension, chronic pain, discomfort, and decreased desire.

Not to mention low energy, anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, and lack of joy and enthusiasm for your life!

You deserve to love every inch of your body and feel completely relaxed and at home inside your own skin. And it’s important to your health, wellbeing, and overall joy, confidence and success that you do!

Because no matter how young or old you are, no matter what experiences you have had up until now around your sexuality, if you are a WOMAN – there isn’t anything more important to your health, your confidence, your relationships, and your ability to fulfill your dreams and enjoy your life than reclaiming a healthy positive relationship with your sexuality – FOR YOU.

Be like France.

Cultivate an internal culture of care, respect, and appreciation for your vulva, your vagina, and your sexuality.

In my experience, if you’re a woman, there isn’t anything more worth spending time on.

It is my hope that at some point soon, education and health care will follow our lead.

Until then, it’s up to each of us to do the work to reclaim a positive, healthy relationship with our own amazing vagina.

Reclaiming Your Sexual Self Coming Soon!

Due to popular demand I am creating an entire course focused exclusively on helping you heal your relationship with your sexuality, reclaim and awaken your sexual self, and care for your vulva and vagina.

Here’s a delicious taste of what will be included!

  • Breaking the Taboo around Sex and Vulva’s
  • Befriending Your Body
  • Opening Your Emotional Faucet
  • Healing Sexual Shame and Anxiety
  • Prioritizing Pleasure
  • Accessing Your Inner Wisdom (We all have it!)
  • The Real Female Arousal Anatomy, and Why It’s Important to Know
  • Connecting with Your Yoni
  • The Art of Self-Pleasure
  • And much much more!

If a part of you feels at all curious or excited about reclaiming your sexual self, I am creating this course exactly for you!

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You’ll be the first to know when registration opens, and you’ll have first dibs on any opportunities to pre-register, along with some other fun surprises I’m planning (like possibly a naming contest)!  So, if you’re interested, you’ll want to stay in the loop.

I am soooooo excited to be creating this program, and even more excited to have it ready for you!  Who knows, maybe someday soon I’ll offer it in France <3

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